YO VINNIE!
I've been seeing a man for the last year who is really wonderful. There's one major issue though. It's, of course, sex. His level of experience is infinitely greater than mine and even though the sex is great (for me) and he's never complained, I can't shake the fear that I'm not up to his standards. I know that he did things with his previous girlfriends that I've only seen in movies. And even then I sometimes had to look away. Even when we try something that's new for me, I know it's old hat for him. I feel so connected to him in every other way I'd hate to bore him in bed. What's a girl to do?--Trying to Buy a Clue in Hartford, Connecticut

Colonel Mustard in the Study: America's a great country, isn't it? We all spend so much time worrying about everyone else being faster, smarter, better looking and better in bed that we barely have time to think. But this is gooood. It's only those who care about upping their game that will actually be able to up their game. The rest are out there thinking "love" is enough while they wait to discover their partner in bed with their best friend (remember Number 2? They sure as hell do try harder).